Resillience notes from 10/16/15

I'm putting the whole thing below as a block quote. What struck me is that people shouldn't have to rely on the internet as a place to come to terms with their own challenges, and for support. At the same time, Mr. Worth's

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Fred WorthVerified Purchase(What's this?)

This review is from: In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness (Paperback)

I agree with the comments about this book. I have the book and a couple of his other ones and I learned from them, they were my first knowledge of what trauma could do. I want to make a specific trauma comment and since the author has helped me alot what better place to do it!

At age 60 I am finally and only recently past the terror of early, continuous and prolonged childhood abuse because of the healing work I have done on my own. I recommend books and techniques from Alice Miller, Peter Levine (of course!), David Berceli, Babette Rothschild, EMDR, EFT, PARTS/EGO STATES work, NLP. I am a little leery about unsupervised guided imagery and meditation because they can be so close to dissociation, I sure did.

My comment is that with early abuse in whatever form the child has to create coping and defensive mechanisms to be able to survive mentally. These PARTs then prevent the child from growing naturally like all children should. As an adult these PARTS drew me to abusers and perpetuated actions which continued to retraumatize me. I didn't know any better.

People who experience trauma as adults can use the techniques the author describes and those listed above to get back to normal. I have come to the awful realization that I have no NORMAL to go back to! My former desires and reasons for living no longer exist. They were based on avoiding reality, lessening the pain and terror, and plowing through dissociation to be able to function. While I don't have the terror anymore I am still trauma parallyzed (Freeze, surrender) as I have been for most of these 6 decades and I don't have the NORMAL interests and motivations which would help me get past that. "I" do not exist.

My hope from this review is that this Catch 22 can be added to trauma discussions. I don't know what can be done to create a resource or if there are even more people like me out there.

I guess a correlary is to emphasize the need to help children who do experience trauma, as early as possible. (Another of the author's books.)